Life is hard for men. Especially when it comes to finding a good woman. Men want to be cool, but not too cool that they turn away the right girl. They need to be smart, but not so smart that they are intimidating. They need to fit, but not so fit that women think they are too self-absorbed. They need to have a great personality. They need to be funny. They need to know how to understand women. And the list goes on and on.
No wonder so many men think they need to be a ladies’ man.
When men are not sure what will work to get women interested in them, they often take on the persona of the man who really understands the ladies. Usually, that man could not be farther from reality. The typical lady’s man usually has absolutely no idea what women want, so they make it up as they go.
When men try to be a ladies’ man, they have some very poor examples to follow. Back in the late 1990s, Tim Meadows from Saturday Night Live had a recurring skit called “The Ladies’ Man.” In it, he played Leon Phelps, The skit was so popular that SNL actually turned it into a movie (which was not very good). However, the idea was that Phelps was a sweet-talking, Courvoisier drinking man who thought he knew how to get a lady or two into bed each night. He wore leisure suits, leather, and shirt unbuttoned to his navel. His Afro hairstyle was endearing, but he was actually kind of an oaf. He gave advice to men who were looking to score and his advice usually involved venereal diseases and overweight women. The skits were hilarious, but they should NOT be taken as real advice on how to get women. If you really want to know what NOT to do, follow Phelps’ instructions.
Pick Up Lines and How to Use Them
Many ladies’ men think that they can get a woman with a clever pick up line. While a pick up line might be a great way to break the ice, the pick up line alone is not a guarantee that a woman will be interested. Many women may find a pick up line to be funny and possible archaically sweet, but it is the conversation that follows that will really seal the deal. If you cannot communicate (e.g., hold a real conversation about an interesting gender-neutral topic), then you should not even try out the pickup line.
To keep a conversation going, let the woman be the guide. Once you have gotten her attention, listen to her. Ask her questions and use her answers to help guide the conversation. If you are at a sports bar, she probably knows a thing or two about sports; therefore, it is appropriate to talk to about sports with her. If you are at a club, talk about music. If you are at a food-related event, talk about food. If you can get her to talk about her work, keep the conversation going. Women really want to know if a man can be interesting - that is the real way that a man will be able to be a true “ladies’ man.”
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